Saturday, 5 November 2011

On the prowl, looking for kinky girls

The past 18 months to almost two years have been difficult for me. Work, which has been on my mind lately and if you have ever had any concerns about money then you'll understand, has taken different turns and is now unpredictable. At least, I know that I not the only person in the situation, so I take some comfort from that. However, I do know that I have to sort out the work situation and move on with my life, and not try to hang on to a career that is dying. This will mean taking some risks and, by my nature, I'm not a big risk taker, so I'll be stepping outside of my comfort zone.

But on the upside, I feel healthier, I exercise more, although I still drink about the same, and, of course, I have more time and energy to think about sex. And that brings with it thoughts of finding a soul mate who enjoys the same kinks as I do.

Living where I do, surrounded by millions of people, you would think that finding someone who is kinky would be easy. And to be fair, there must be a good share of people who are as kinky as me, but the problem is finding them.

So I've decided that if I'm taking a risk with my work life then I might as well take a risk with my love life too. Again, this means stepping outside of my comfort zone because although I like to socialise, I only like to socialise with my friends and find meeting new people to be difficult. There are a couple of work events that I have lined up for some networking practice but I might also use them as an opportunity to try and make some new friends too. If I happen to meet an attractive woman then so much the better. But I believe in small steps first and see this as a good way to build my confidence, which has slowly ebbed away over the past years.

However, the point of this post is to ask one question: "How can you tell if a women is kinky or is at least open to kinky suggestion when you first meet her?"

Any pointers for this would be much appreciated.

3 comments:

  1. Things get tricky when youre looking for someone who may have the same interests as you.
    I know, in my experience, whenever I let a new guy see my kinky side too early, they dont seem to take me serious as a prospective long term relationship. They just think of me as a lay.
    At the same time, if they are kinky, but I dont put that side of me out there, they think Im a prude!
    I dont have any pointers, cuz Im in the same position (so to speak) but I think Im going to look for long term first, then kinky second. That way, I will know if it is real or just another drive-by laying.

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  2. Its not nessessarily looking for a girl thats kinky, its looking for someone you can relate to and talk to easily, once you have that you can ask the rest. Im a sweet girl at first meet but I have to trust someone completely beofre I let them into my kinky world. Just talk and find some trust and you will find a kinky gal at the end hun.

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  3. Awwwww, I couldn't help but respond to this, even tho it's been posted for quite a while. Baby, you never know. She may be kinky or she may not, but you can't rush into finding that out. As both ladies previously posted, you need to think about long-term first. If you turn out to have the same kinky interests, all the better. I hope you get your wish, but it's a slippery slope. You have to work at maintaining your day to day relationship, and hope one of her kinks doesn't include dumping you. Good luck!

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